This morning I saw the hashtag “lovewins” in regards to the supreme court ruling on gay marriage. Now, I’m not going to share my personal opinion on the rulings because I don’t want to start a war and I don’t think this is the place for that kind of debate. I have friends on both sides of the argument, so I’m just not going to open that can of worms because it’s not worth it to me.
However, I would like to say something about this hashtag. Love wins. It seems straightforward enough, but it implies that hate lost. It implies that everyone who opposed gay marriage is a hateful person who hates gay people. Certainly there are many people who fit that description. Those who protest with signs that say “God hates fags” and so on.
So let me tell you something: God is love. God loves everyone and everything he has created. Sometimes the things we do make him weep with sadness, but he still loves us, just like sometimes our children do things that make us weep with sadness, but we still love them. There is no hate, no darkness, no evil in God. So those people calling themselves Christians who not only protest against gays, but also at abortion clinics and other events they disagree with, those people are not behaving in accordance with God’s will. Only God can judge a person’s heart. We, as a society, can judge people’s actions (murder and rape is wrong), but we cannot judge what is in a person’s heart.
We are here, as Christians, to demonstrate God’s love, to reach people through God’s love, and to exemplify His Word. No, we aren’t perfect, that’s why we need Jesus in the first place, but standing outside an abortion clinic, or at a gay pride rally, and screaming such hateful things at people…that is not love…that is not an example of God’s love. That is the kind of behavior that makes Christianity look bad. It is the kind of behavior that drives people away, rather than draws them in.
So, I guess my point is: It is possible to disagree with someone and still love them. Anyone who has been in a relationship knows that. People disagree all the time and still love each other. So, Christians, it’s ok to disagree with someone’s choice, with their politics, with their lifestyle, and it’s possible to still love them with God’s love, and to demonstrate Godly grace and compassion.
To anyone who has ever felt hated by a Christian, know that that is not what our religion is about, and most of us are just as saddened by that kind of hateful behavior as you are. It is a small, but very vocal minority that uses Christianity as an excuse for their hate, and I hope that more Christians will start standing up to be living examples of what God’s love really looks like.